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What even is Soft Kink?

  • What is soft kink?

    Soft Kink is my personal flavor of kink. I often find kink spaces and play parties have a certain hardness to them, from the aesthetics (black, red, leather, lace) to the vibe (rough, intense, hard). Not always, not everywhere and all flavors have their place, but I prefer spaces that focus more on softness in all of it's forms. Hence I created this universe!
     

  • What is conscious kink?

    Conscious Kink is yet another flavor of Kink and BDSM. One that focuses on slowing things down, that puts presence and awareness at the center of play. Conscious Kink can be a tool for self development, for looking at one's patterns and shadows.

    At Soft Kink, we work in the kink space but with a conscious facilitation layer: somatic awareness, explicit consent practices, and a focus on what the experience means for you and not just what happens physically. Many of our participants have never been to a BDSM event and wouldn't identify with that label. They're simply curious about their edges.
     

  • What's the difference between Kink and BDSM?

    Kink:  The great big world of sexual adventure including but not limited to voyeurism, exhibitionism, fetishism, fantasy role-playing, cross-dressing, power exchange, swinging, leather identity, erotic restraint, consensual non-monogamy, “naughty sex” and BDSM between consenting adults. In short, the realm of sexuality perceived to be outside the mainstream.
    (Playing well with others Lee Harrington | Mollena Williams | Glossary)

    BDSM: An acronym used to stand for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/ Submission, Sadism/Masochism and Slavery/Mastery. This acronym is sometimes used to refer to the kink communities as a whole or any kink activities in general.
    (Playing well with others Lee Harrington | Mollena Williams | Glossary)

     

  • What makes Soft Kink different from a regular kink event?

    The vibe we aim for at our events is a bit like the vibe of this website, playful, colorful, queer. House of Play in Copenhagen has a similar flavor. Each event we offer is also very different, so have a look at our Offerings
     

  • Is this sexual or is it more like a workshop?

    This very much depends on the workshop you are choosing to attend. Some are completely non-sexual, others are explicitly so.See Offerings

"Is this for me?"

  • Do I need prior experience to attend?

    Generally, no. Most things, unless specifically stated are aimed at a broad audience. Make sure to read the individual Workshop descriptions for more specific information.

     

  • Can I come alone or do I need a partner?

    It depends, some offerings might be for couples, usually, coming by yourself is not a problem and is in fact encouraged!
     

  • Is this for couples only?

    No, some workshops might be specifically geared towards couples, but many are for anyone.
     

  • I'm curious but nervous — what should I expect?

    First of all I invite you to embrace that nervousness. Especially if you are trying out something new, it is quite normal to be nervous. Reading the individual workshop descriptions should answer that question and if you are still in doubt, or still have questions don't hesitate to reach out via Email
     

  • Are the events in English or Danish?

    I hold most of my events in English, but I do speak fluent Danish and will take the time to make sure that you can follow along. (If you speak no English at all, that will be an issue, but if there are certain terms you might not know, or parts of explanations, I am happy to help out)

"Safety and Boudaries"

  • Can I set limits on what I'm comfortable with?

    Yes! You are always encouraged to check in with yourself, to adjust exercises in a way that makes them accessible to you. We consider observation as participation as well, so you can always sit an exercise out if you so wish.
     

  • How is consent handled?

    We take consent very seriously.
    We see consent as a skill that we can practice.
    We use the traffic light method to navigate consent and a "No" is a full sentence. 

    Read more about our understanding of consent here
     

  • What if I want to stop during an activity?

    You can always stop at any point by saying "Red", or "Stop" if something gets too much. You can talk to someone from our team if you should need and want support.
     

  • Is nudity involved?

    Nudity can be involved, depending on the type of event. You are never expected to be naked.
     

  • Are photos taken at events?

    No. Unless explicitly stated in the event description, we will never take pictures of you or the event without your EXPLICIT consent.

"Practicalities"

  • Where are events held in Copenhagen?

    Most events are currently held at House of Play a wonderful venue on Amager in Copenhagen. The location is always mentioned in the individual events.
     

  • How do I sign up?

    You will find that information in the event description.
     

  • How much do events cost?

    Prices can vary depending on the event but generally:

    - 3 hour workshops: 250-500kr
    - 5 hour workshops: 800-2000kr
    - multi day retreats: 1500+ kr

     

  • What should I wear or bring?

    Generally it is a good idea to bring clothes that you can easily move in and that make you feel comfortable. A water bottle and perhaps a little snack is always a good idea. Should you need anything else we'll  mention it in the event description.

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