Softer Dating - The Art of Embodied Dating - (Age: 40+)*

I'd like to invite you to another round of Softer Dating!

Dating can often times feel very “heady” and intellectual. We think about what to say, try to be funny etc. but by doing that we miss out on a bunch of other juicy and good stuff!

This is for you, if you are ready to explore new ways of being in connection beyond the regular small-talk.

The thing is, our bodies are incredibly good at understanding what they like and dislike. While the mind is busy making up stories, the body, already senses what is happening in this moment.

In this event you are invited to allow your body to lead your experience.

Words and thoughts get to take a little break today.

You won’t have to think about what to say next, what to share in order to fill the silence. You get full permission to be in the body, and we will guide you into that space. Get your ticket here

WHAT YOU'LL TAKE WITH YOU

Beyond the evening itself, many people leave with:

- New ways of connecting - discovering forms of interaction that go beyond talking

- Greater body awareness - more in touch with your own body, your yes, and no

- Self-knowledge - understanding yourself more deeply through experience rather than analysis

- Confidence - both in social spaces and in honoring your own boundaries

- A shifted perspective - on how you approach people and relationships going forward

You'll learn to take responsibility for your own experience, developing the skill and ability to shape what happens rather than waiting for the other person to create it. This often translates into presence, a quality that serves you far beyond dating.

THE EVENING

Part 1: Landing

We will spend some time arriving and landing together. Transitioning from the rushed pace of everyday life, to presence and slowness. 

Part 2: Moments of connection

You’ll meet a range of people through short, guided one-on-one experiences. By removing the pressure of choosing, we create space to simply be present and curious.

Consent is explicit throughout. All exercises are invitations, you can always choose to do less or observe.

Part 3: Guided exploration with choice

As the group has landed and found comfort together, you now choose who you partner with. We’ll explore connection through:

• Moving your body (dance, movement)

• Mindful touch (soft, consensual)

• Curious conversations

• Observation & rest (take a break anytime)

Touch and closeness may arise, if desired. The atmosphere is intimate but not se*ual. No nudity, no pressure.

PS: We don’t share the specific exercises in advance for a couple of reasons: to keep the surprise; because what we do depends on the group’s energy. See it as an invitation to trust and stay curious!

WHO IS THIS FOR?

People aged 35-55* looking for meaningful connections.

Any gender expression, style of relating, and sexual preference welcome.

DO I NEED EXPERIENCE?

No! Beginners are very welcome.

DO I NEED TO BRING A PARTNER?

No, though it might be nice to bring a friend!

CODE OF CONDUCT & MORE

Please read our Code of Conduct before attending: https://www.houseofplay.dk/code-of-conduct

Cancellation policy & no-show fee: https://www.houseofplay.dk/terms-and-conditions

Read about our chili system: https://www.houseofplay.dk/chili-system 1 of 4 Chilies 🌶️

QUESTIONS?

What if I don’t like an exercise?

You can observe instead. We encourage people to take care of their boundaries—it happens and we think it’s wonderful.

What if I feel awkward?

Awkwardness and shyness are welcome. You don’t need to pretend. Most people relax naturally after some time.

What about the gender ratio?

We can’t guarantee your preference will be there, but so far we’ve had a wide, colorful distribution of genders!

What if I’m paired with someone I don’t find attractive?

Softer Dating is about connection, not just romance. Can you bring respect and curiosity, even if there’s no spark? Also, know that you can always step out.

Why We Use Age Ranges

The most common concern I hear from people considering to join such an event is the following:

"Will there be people I'm actually attracted to?" There are of course many variables that go into whether we find someone attractive or not and there is very big individual differences. We can't guarantee chemistry, but we can narrow down the variables.

When you walk into a Softer Dating event, we want you to feel like you're in the right room. Not wondering "wait, is everyone here 22?" or "am I the youngest person here by a decade?" We want people to look around and think: "Okay. Yeah. These are my people. I could see myself with someone here."

That's what age ranges do. They're not about exclusion they're about creating comfort and confidence.

So, in part this is about marketing and making sure people feel safe enough to attend. The trade-off is that some people will be excluded from some events.

For that reason we will be offering events for different age brackets