Softer Dating X House of Play | Age: 40+

Softer Dating - A gentle space for real connection (Age: 40+)*

So many people are tired of dating apps and at the same time there aren't many alternative ways for meeting people out there. Softer Dating a space, in real life, where you will meet others looking for connections! We understand that being in such a space might feel intimidating or even scary, that's why there will be plenty of time to land together and find calmness before engaging with others.

Softer Dating is about a shared, playful experience. Dating is simply the frame. At its heart it is about connection, intimacy, authenticity and curiosity. In that way it differs from classic dating events where the outcome is all that matters. Regardless of the outcome, whether you meet the love of your life or not, you will hopefully feel nourished, connected and joyful!

THE EVENING IS SPLIT INTO TWO INTERLOCKING PARTS:

1) MOMENTS OF CONNECTION

You will meet a range of people through a series of short, guided one-on-one experiences.

These are small moments where you can sense the other person's vibe and explore whether there is resonance:

- perhaps it's someone's grounding touch that entices you…

- the small details around their eyes that draw you in

- the sound of their voice as they whisper into your ear

- the way they move as you share a dance

By removing the pressure of choosing, we create space to simply be present and curious. Consent is made explicit and encouraged throughout. All exercises are invitations, you can always choose to do less. There is a strong focus on learning to listen to your own body's signals and honoring your boundaries at every step.

2) GUIDED EXPLORATION WITH CHOICE

During the second half of the evening, we continue with more guided exercises. As the group has landed and found more comfort together, you now choose who you partner with—adding a new layer of agency and playfulness.

We'll explore connection through different types of exercises:

- Move your body: dance, move, be in your body, explore what happens when bodies speak

- Share mindful touch: explore touching and being touched, with care and consent

- Curious conversations: get to know one another through words

- Observe and rest: if you need a break, you can always step into our observation area

Touch and closeness may arise, if desired. The atmosphere is intimate but not sexual. There is no nudity, and no pressure to engage in any activity.

This is an invitation for an exploration at your own pace, within your own boundaries, playful and with presence.

We are looking forward to seeing you!

WHO IS THIS FOR?

This event is for people aged 35-55* looking to make meaningful connections.

While this is not an explicitly queer event, any gender expression, style of relating and sexual preference is welcome.

CAN I JOIN AS A BEGINNER?

Yes! No prior experience is needed!

DO I NEED A PARTNER?

No need to bring a partner, though it might be a great idea to come with a friend (or a partner if you are relating openly)!

DRESSCODE

Dare to stand out, show who you are! Think of what makes you feel comfortable, confident, sexy perhaps? Wear something that allows you to move around easily for the exercises. Feel free to go all out, if you are wondering "Is this too much?" The answer is: "More is more!" go for it!

WHAT TO BRING

Just bring yourself!

TIMES

Doors open at 18:30 for you to land softly in the space

Doors close at 19:00 where we start. Please be on time.

The event lasts 3 hours and ends at 22:00

TICKETS

280 kr for members

350 kr for non-members

Tickets are non-refundable.

Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here: https://www.houseofplay.dk/terms-and-conditions

CODE OF CONDUCT

Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct https://www.houseofplay.dk/code-of-conduct.

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is the gender ratio?

While we can't guarantee that the person that fits your gender preference will be there, let us tell you this: So far there has always been a wide and colorful distribution of genders! (queer friendly)

How many people will be there?

Usually we have between 25 to 40 people at these events.

What if I don't like an exercise?

We really encourage our participants to take care of their boundaries. You can always decide that you would rather observe during an exercise. It happens every now and then and we find it wonderful that people take care of themselves in that way!

What if I feel awkward?

Awkwardness, shyness, worry—these are all emotions that can show up at an event like this. You are welcome to be present in the way you are, no need to pretend. Generally people seem to be able to relax and let their guard down naturally after some time.

What if I am paired up with someone I don't find attractive at all?

Softer Dating is about connection, not only about finding a romantic partner. Can you stay within your boundaries and still bring respect and curiosity towards this person?

ABOUT THE FACILITATOR

My name is Philipp, but you may call me Pyt!

I've been creating intimate events and workshops for the past few years, and simply love creating spaces for people to unfold and enjoy themselves!

I work as a life coach and facilitator, you can check out my work at www.softkink.dk

Why We Use Age Ranges

The most common concern I hear from people considering to join such an event is the following:

"Will there be people I'm actually attracted to?" There are of course many variables that go into whether we find someone attractive or not and there is very big individual differences. We can't guarantee chemistry, but we can narrow down the variables.

When you walk into a Softer Dating event, we want you to feel like you're in the right room. Not wondering "wait, is everyone here 22?" or "am I the youngest person here by a decade?" We want people to look around and think: "Okay. Yeah. These are my people. I could see myself with someone here."

That's what age ranges do. They're not about exclusion they're about creating comfort and confidence.

So, in part this is about marketing and making sure people feel safe enough to attend. The trade-off is that some people will be excluded from some events.

For that reason we will be offering events for different age brackets