Softer Dating - Summer Flavours & The Art of Embodied Dating - (Age 35-55)*

As the summer heat slowly starts to build, we invite you to another round of Softer Dating!

Dating can often times feel very “heady” and intellectual. We think about what to say, try to be funny etc. but by doing that we miss out on a bunch of other juicy and good stuff!

This is for you, if you are ready to explore new ways of being in connection beyond the regular small-talk.

The thing is, our bodies are incredibly good at understanding what they like and dislike. While the mind is busy making up stories, the body, already senses what is happening in this moment.

In this event you are invited to allow your body to lead your experience.

Words and thoughts get to take a little break today.

You won’t have to think about what to say next, what to share in order to fill the silence. You get full permission to be in the body, and we will guide you into that space.

WHAT YOU'LL TAKE WITH YOU

Beyond the evening itself, many people leave with:

- New ways of connecting - discovering forms of interaction that go beyond talking

- Greater body awareness - more in touch with your own body, your yes, and no

- Self-knowledge - understanding yourself more deeply through experience rather than analysis

- Confidence - both in social spaces and in honoring your own boundaries

- A shifted perspective - on how you approach people and relationships going forward

You'll learn to take responsibility for your own experience, developing the skill and ability to shape what happens rather than waiting for the other person to create it. This often translates into presence, a quality that serves you far beyond dating.

THE EVENT

Part 1: Embodied Moments of connection

You’ll meet a range of people through short, guided one-on-one experiences. By removing the pressure of choosing, we create space to simply be present and curious.

Consent is explicit throughout. All exercises are invitations, you can always choose to do less or observe.

Part 2: Guided exploration with choice

As the group has landed and found comfort together, you now choose freely who you want to connect with.

We’ll explore connection through:

• Moving your body (dance, movement)

• Mindful touch (soft, consensual)

• Curious conversations

• Observation & rest (take a break anytime)

Touch and closeness may arise, if desired. The atmosphere is intimate but not sexual. No nudity, no pressure.

PS: We don’t share the specific exercises in advance for a couple of reasons: to keep the surprise; because what we do depends on the group’s energy. See it as an invitation to trust and stay curious!

WHO IS THIS FOR?

People aged 35-55* looking for meaningful connections.

Any gender expression, style of relating, and sexual preference welcome.

DO I NEED EXPERIENCE?

No! Beginners are very welcome.

DO I NEED TO BRING A PARTNER?

No, though it might be nice to bring a friend!

CODE OF CONDUCT & MORE

Please read our Code of Conduct before attending:

https://www.houseofplay.dk/code-of-conduct

Cancellation policy & no-show fee:

https://www.houseofplay.dk/terms-and-conditions

Read about our chili system:

https://www.houseofplay.dk/chili-system

1 of 4 Chilies 🌶️

QUESTIONS?

What if I don’t like an exercise?

You can observe instead. We encourage people to take care of their boundaries—it happens and we think it’s wonderful.

What if I feel awkward?

Awkwardness and shyness are welcome. You don’t need to pretend. Most people relax naturally after some time.

What about the gender ratio?

We can’t guarantee your preference will be there, but so far we’ve had a wide, colorful distribution of genders!

What if I’m paired with someone I don’t find attractive?

Softer Dating is about connection, not just romance. Can you bring respect and curiosity, even if there’s no spark? Also, know that you can always step out.

ABOUT THE FACILITATOR

Hi, I’m Philipp (call me Pyt). I’ve been creating intimate events and workshops for years because I love creating spaces where people can unfold and enjoy themselves.

I work as a life coach and kink facilitator. Check out more at www.softkink.dk

WHAT TO BRING

Just bring yourself!

TIMES

Doors open at 18:30 for you to land softly in the space

Doors close at 19:00 where we start. Please be on time.

The event lasts 3 hours and ends at 22:00

TICKETS

280 kr for members

350 kr for non-members

Tickets are non-refundable.

Be sure to read our cancellation policy and no-show fee here: https://www.houseofplay.dk/terms-and-conditions

CODE OF CONDUCT

Before showing up to any of our activities, please make sure to read and follow the House of Play Code of Conduct https://www.houseofplay.dk/code-of-conduct.

🌶️ of 4 Chilis

Read more about our chili system here: https://www.houseofplay.dk/chili-system

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is the gender ratio?

While we can't guarantee that the person that fits your gender preference will be there, let us tell you this: So far there has always been a wide and colorful distribution of genders! (queer friendly)

How many people will be there?

Usually we have between 25 to 40 people at these events.

What if I don't like an exercise?

We really encourage our participants to take care of their boundaries. You can always decide that you would rather observe during an exercise. It happens every now and then and we find it wonderful that people take care of themselves in that way!

What if I feel awkward?

Awkwardness, shyness, worry—these are all emotions that can show up at an event like this. You are welcome to be present in the way you are, no need to pretend. Generally people seem to be able to relax and let their guard down naturally after some time.

What if I am paired up with someone I don't find attractive at all?

Softer Dating is about connection, not only about finding a romantic partner. Can you stay within your boundaries and still bring respect and curiosity towards this person?

ABOUT THE FACILITATOR

My name is Philipp, but you may call me Pyt!

I've been creating intimate events and workshops for the past few years, and simply love creating spaces for people to unfold and enjoy themselves!

I work as a life coach and facilitator, you can check out my work at www.softkink.dk

Why We Use Age Ranges

The most common concern I hear from people considering to join such an event is the following:

"Will there be people I'm actually attracted to?" There are of course many variables that go into whether we find someone attractive or not and there is very big individual differences. We can't guarantee chemistry, but we can narrow down the variables.

When you walk into a Softer Dating event, we want you to feel like you're in the right room. Not wondering "wait, is everyone here 22?" or "am I the youngest person here by a decade?" We want people to look around and think: "Okay. Yeah. These are my people. I could see myself with someone here."

That's what age ranges do. They're not about exclusion they're about creating comfort and confidence.

So, in part this is about marketing and making sure people feel safe enough to attend. The trade-off is that some people will be excluded from some events.

For that reason we will be offering events for different age brackets